I work with couples
to design ceremonies that reflect
their experiences, identities & values.

 
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What makes a wedding unique?

You, what’s important to you,
and how you share it with the people surrounding you
in that particular time and place.

Let’s identify customs or design practices that really reflect your values—
whether you are secular, religious, interfaith, intercultural, LGBTQ+,
(or just don’t want a cookie-cutter ceremony
that perpetuates misogynistic, heteronormative, and elitist values)—
and go beyond what the traditional wedding industry offers.

Let’s connect.

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“When we don’t examine the deeper assumptions behind why we gather, we end up skipping to quickly to replicating old, staid formats of gathering. And we forgo the possibility of creating something memorable, even transformative.”

— Priya Parker, The Art of Gathering

Each couple deserves a ceremony that reflects their values, experiences, and identities without compromise or apology.

The wedding industry promotes traditions that don’t always align with a couple’s experiences, identities, and values, and wedding planners, vendors, and officiants don’t always consider whether those practices reflect your relationship, whether they promote your values, whether they include everyone.

Like many couples, you might fear having to compromise: either hire someone who doesn't understand how to design a ceremony that authentically looks and feels like you, or try to do it all yourself. 

I’m here to change that.

“If you want someone who listens, is experienced
and who has a real passion for the entire wedding ceremony,
Bill is the best Officiant we can recommend.”

Through your wedding, you not only offer the people around you a taste of the world you want to live in - you invite them to help make it a reality.

You can create that experience and ensure that every aspect of your ceremony reflects the world you want to build.

I’d be honored to guide the way.

Services Offered

Ceremony Design

I’ll collaborate with you to design all aspects of your ceremony, whether we’re tailoring my simple ceremony or creating a ritual from scratch. We’ll

explore traditions and innovations to discern what reflects your experiences, identities, and values.

Officiating & Officiant coaching

I’ll officiate, or witness a wedding as the official representative of the state. If you’ve invited friends or family members to officiate, I’ll coach them to prepare for the ceremony.

Component Design

I’ll help you identify or develop particular components for your ceremony, including vows, readings, and blessings.

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Hello, I’m Bill, your Ritual Designer and Facilitator. I collaborate with couples to design unique ceremonies that are rooted in the experiences that shape their relationship. 

Early on as an officiant, I was deeply bothered by the heteronormative, gendered, and classist values perpetuated by the wedding industry, so I tried to effect a shift toward more authentic and more inclusive practices anywhere I could. When it came time for my own wedding, I found out how powerful experiencing a ceremony that reflected us and the world we want to shape, one that didn’t force us to compromise or assimilate, could be. I want other couples to have that experience, too. 

A wedding marks a change in your lives, but it’s also an opportunity to change the world. You don’t have to use traditional or popular customs - you can design an experience that truly reflects you. When I work with a couple, I start with your experiences, your values, your identities to help you identify practices that are meaningful to you and that will invite the friends and family who surround you to help build a world that celebrates and reflects everything you are. We’ll create an experience that is beautiful, joyful, and impactful. It will change your friends’ perceptions of what a wedding - and the world - can be. 

The process…

  • Introductory consultation

    Schedule a 30 minute introductory consultation via Zoom at no cost. You’ll tell me what you're planning and what you're looking for in a ceremony and officiant. I’ll share more about my approach.

  • Proposal

    I’ll submit a proposal with specifics about the timeline for our collaboration, resources to give you a better sense of my style and previous work, and fees. If you’re ready to move forward, I’ll hold your date and start work with a 50% deposit.

  • Collaborate

    We’ll meet about once a month via Zoom or in person to design all aspects of the ceremony, develop your vows, and prepare to welcome your community to witness your wedding. The process is guided by reflection and dialogue to identify what’s important to you and the experience you want to create. Together, we’ll iterate the ceremony until you’re confident that it reflects your experiences, identities, and values.

You don’t have to do the work of creating your ceremony alone or be confined by only the ideas of what the wedding industry supplies you with.

With my support, we can bring the wedding you envision to life.

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